#ArtTuesdays – 10 Problems of an Introvert (As Told by an Actual Introvert)

#ArtTuesdays – 10 Problems of an Introvert (As Told by an Actual Introvert)

To introduce the topic I will say that today’s Art Tuesday will discuss being an introvert.

When I was 17 or 18 years old, I wrote “Problems of An Introvert about myself, and my personal problems to let off some steam. Problems of An Introvert is not about all introverts, it is about this introvert, writing this post aka me 😛 ( and if you can read my horrid hand writing the subheading is: AKA Shy Kid, also referring to me) Thus, I apologize for my ignorance or anything that is outright false because while it has only been a couple of years ( I am 21 years old now) I have learned a lot since then. I am not the only introvert on the planet. And I will address now that although my first and second problem noted discuss shyness which is a major misconception of being introverteda lot of people assume that all introverts are shy. I personally happen to be a shy introvert.  However, this is certainly not true for all introverted people. 

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Problems of an Introvert Page 1 Written by Nicole Oliva (written when I was 17 or 18) read full post for details.

 Problems of an Introvert page one: (I am writing them over in case people cannot read my chicken scratch lol)

1. The obvious being shy

2. Overcoming the shyness.

Since one and two both discuss shyness I will talk about them in conjunction. When I was younger, I was very confused and did not know myself as well. So yes, I was shy. But, I also was simply less comfortable with myself and my introvertedness so I did not know how to make myself happy. I did not realize that I needed some rest time in between seeing people. My family did not necessarily respect privacy when I was younger and so I was always with someone on my back, not letting me be me. Knowing myself a lot better now and learning to deal with my introvertedness (not my shyness) has in turn made me understand how to live better and to deal with everyone a lot better. I was and am still shy when I first meet people. I will never run up to anyone and start an off-the-cuff conversation about foolish things. But I realize that everyone is not trying to trigger my anxiety. Just everyone is different and that is ok. There are more people like me. Introverts generally act the way I do. Yes, we’ll talk to you. But actually engage us in conversation one-on-one and we’ll be your best friend. We cannot handle all of the pressure of large crowds or a cafeteria like setting. It’s too much for our brains to take in. We prefer laid-back settings to talk and get to know people. Occasionally I will go to a party. But I’m probably the first to leave or I will be making myself comfortable in a quiet corner or nook 😛

Introverts do not thrive on human interaction the way extroverts do. For an introvert, hanging out with people can be compared to working out. The more people we hang out with, the more our brain works to process everything and keep up. Throw some loud music and a crowd and we’re basically running a marathon. Speaking of marathons. Not saying an introvert wouldn’t do one. But they might need a day or two to rest from running and people after they go through with it.

For a better interpretation of what being introverted means I suggest “How To Love Your Introvert” by Kevin Yang a Button Poetry video on Youtube.

3. People assuming you want to be alone (in some cases, but 8 out or 10 times totally wrong, and actually the opposite),

Yes, introverts need off time to recharge (for lack of a better term) but that does not mean we need to be home alone all of the time. Introverts are not necessarily lazy, or incapable home bodies. However, as said we prefer cool, laid-back settings. Most parties are not laid-back. So fix the setting of your party before you invite your favorite introvert.

4. Assholes that take advantage of them (most introverts are nice, but maybe not in a smiley kind of way. I myself do things for people to show them I care/like them as a person)

Listen, stop telling to me to smile on first sight of my face. I do not live to please everyone. Nor do I need to smile all day to prove that I am happy. Did you ever think to ask if someone is happy before assuming they are miserable because they do not have a smile pasted on their face? Well maybe now you should. That’s all I will say about this.

If you want a laugh check out my post on button poetry which has two Youtube videos related to this specific problem 🙂

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5. Personally, I am a perfectionist. I hate confrontation. I’m picky. I don’t like talking about my feelings, however I am very emotional/sentimental. I’m good at criticizing but I can’t take criticism from other people. I get into a vicious cycle of unhappiness and can’t get out (frequently) 

This problem may simply be my own personal one. But I am not discussing how I am actually feeling when you ask me how I am. And even when I do say something other than good and fine, people seem to think that’s weird or do not actually engage me anyhow. So sorry for not following your stupid routine but I do have feelings that you do not need to hear about, nor do you actually care.

If you’re going to ask me how I am, you can expect an answer other than good. Otherwise, do not bother me with your stupid small talk.

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6. I’m horrible at small talk. When people ask me simple questions I give simple answers. It’s always like “How are you?” or “What’s up?” And I’m like good or fine. Even if I’m having a horrible day. 

As an introvert, small talk never rubbed me the right way. I never understood why people would ask me how I am doing if they did not actually care for a response beyond good or fine. Even when I say fine, people have literally said: “Just fine?” as if I’m lying or fine was not good enough for them. Apparently, I have to stroke everyone’s ego when I give my response. And god forbid I do not say “And you?” back to them right away. Got into an argument about this one. If I do not say it right away I was perhaps thinking, or you know do not actually care about you. Sorry for the honesty, but that’s the blunt truth motherfucker. Not everyone cares about you damn it. I’ll say it straight to your face.

7. I’m not very spontaneous. I usually like to have a routine or I start to feel/become restless.

 Again, I do not know if this specific trait is universal to introverts, but for myself personally, I have always needed something to do or I start cleaning like a crazy person because that was the only thing I could think to do. Plus it is productive. Did I mention the thing had to be productive? lol. My routine must be filled with things to do that are productive.

Either work,

Or cleaning the whole house.

Anchorman image - That escalated quickly. The gaff blog does not own this image
Anchorman image – That escalated quickly. The gaff blog does not own this image

8. At my worst (without personal time to recharge) I’m moody, lazy, apathetic, I procrastinate, so therefore, I’m also probably stressed out, and I keep to myself more. 

When people do not allow me the time I need to recharge I am the worst person on the planet. I insult everyone around me. I am irritable. I will criticize you until you are on the brink of cutting yourself. If you do not want this dragon lady version of me to come out. Please respect my time and allow me to do whatever the fuck I want by myself. And I will reemerge as the lovely lady people all know and love (I hope they like/love me XD lol.)

Also, personally I always procrastinate if I can, because I know I can get the job done just as well anyway. Any college student who writes long papers overnight can agree and sympathize 😀 ! lol.

I got an A on a 10 page paper I wrote overnight. What about you? You planned yours out a week/month ahead of time? Aw that’s sweet hun lol. Get on my level XD.

9. If I do not automatically feel comfortable with people, then I do not hang out with them. So I’m kind of picky with friends too. 

I cannot claim this is a universal problem for introverts either, but I have always used my intuition when it comes to meeting new people especially people who could potentially become a friend. Which is why I also hate the typical small talk of people asking how I am doing. If you do not care for a real and honest response, then we probably will not be friends or even acquaintances in the future. I will be nothing except myself when talking to you. Do not expect lollipops and rainbows with me.

Problems of an introvert part 3 written by my 17 or 18 year old self.
Problems of an introvert part 3 written by my 17 or 18 year old self.

So the last page of Problems is just one. But it’s a major one that seems to be a problem with people’s perception of introverts or shy people who do not vomit everything they feel out:

10. Expressing feelings. 

Some introverts may seem cold or mean maybe even passive aggressive because they either have a hard time expressing their feelings or do not wish to share with everyone they ever meet.

I personally am so good at hiding how I am feeling, it’s definitely a problem because I end up holding things in and I may or may not end up blowing up on people if I reach a certain point. 

When I really like someone and reach a certain level of comfortability with them, my true colors come out.

So to explain this one, basically, getting to know an introvert is a process. You will not know everything about them, especially me, until you get to know them a lot better. I personally need to spend a lot of time with someone and possibly share a lot with them before considering them my best friend. One day at six flags is not necessarily making them my bestie. Speaking of that, I hate roller coasters. Do not assume everyone likes six flags 😛

Everyone who likes six flags is already there. Go with them XD

To end this discussion, I share a self portrait of myself that I drew within the same time span that I wrote Problems of an Introvert

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Self Portrait of yours truly Nicole O. 🙂 I do positively own this image in my sketch pad. Anyone taking this image and using it elsewhere will suffer the consequences of having a beautiful self portrait of me 😛 lol.

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#ThrowbackThursday – You Had a Fun Childhood If: You Have or Had a Gold Pokemon Card

#ThrowbackThursday – You Had a Fun Childhood If: You Have or Had a Gold Pokemon Card

You watched Pokemon religiously as a child and got one of these from Burger King:

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After all of these years, I still have my golden Pikachu card. What about you?

Although it seems like Pokemon has been around forever, apparently 2016 will mark as Pokemon’s 20th anniversary.

You can probably tell my age with this one, being that I’ve literally grown up with Pokemon all of my life 😛

Anyone have the original Poke Ball that the gold cards came in? Or any of the other gold cards released?

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***While I do hold this Pikachu card in my position the copyright for this object goes to Nintendo***

#NationalBurgerDay

#NationalBurgerDay

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Screenshot of Twitter trends via an Android Galaxy 😛

So apparently its National Burger Day.

If you’re not on Twitter, or not looking at trends on Twitter, now you know lol.

So what’s ironic, is that as a past vegetarian, I will be writing this post. Keyword past. Please do not consider me a trader vegetarians, but recently I have been loving hot dogs and burgers. Predominately burgers.

McDonald’s burgers, grill em at home burgers, Steak n Shake, Shake Shack, you name it. I’ve tried them all since giving up being a vegetarian and it seems unlikely at this point that I will stop.

Burgers are satisfying in a weird way. Not that tofu is not satisfying. Veggie burgers are tasty and good. But veggie burgers are so light that they sometimes leave you wanting a little more.

This is not me shooting down being a vegetarian. If you don’t like beef or burgers (or meat in general) more power to you. But some people just cannot give it all up. I didn’t eat beef for at least five years and gave up meat entirely for about two or three years. Chicken is just chicken but when I tried a burger again, I knew in my mind I would not be able to stop.

Maybe I’ll celebrate National Burger Day by eating one, who knows?

If you don’t eat beef, try a turkey burger. Or if you don’t eat meat at all, try a veggie burger.

Everyone can celebrate National Burger Day, don’t just leave it for the meat eaters lol.

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#ArtTuesday – Women and Girl’s Clothing Choices’ for Spring and Summer Months

#ArtTuesday – Women and Girl’s Clothing Choices’ for Spring and Summer Months

It seems as the spring has come, the questioning of what girls wear to keep themselves cool/i.e.: not sweaty, has risen.

As a woman who was bothered by these dress codes while I was in high school, it worries me that girls are bothered for what they wear to protect guys, instead of teaching guys how to control themselves.

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Image shared via Facebook originally from Explore Talent. Questions whether the legitimacy of the girl who shared these fliers around her school. Of course she is right #respect #allwomen #allgirls **The Gaff Blog does not own this image**

The poster of this image on Facebook: Explore Talent – Acting and Modeling, questions if the girl was right with her reasoning for posting these fliers around her school. Well I say the girl is absolutely right.

Do not teach girls and women that their appearance is what matters most. In the long run, when you bother girls for not having shorts that are a length that matches with the end of their finger tips not only are you singling them out, but also you are shaming them for their choice in what to wear. You are ruining an individual’s identity.

This is not to say that there is not such a thing as inappropriate dress. One should not wear anything similar to the size of a bathing suit to a school. That is logical. High school/ school in general is not a beach or your house. So bathing suits and slippers should stay in your house. And I understand if clothes are see-through or too short to cover ass cheeks. However, why is it a problem for people like myself to wear shorts to keep themselves cool?

I have been singled out in the past for this reason. My arms are a whole lot longer than most girls. I never pass the finger tip length test.

That test is bullshit

My sister works for Con Edison, and their dress code (along with the shoes they have to wear to protect themselves while on the job) is clearly told to every worker (and a uniform is given) before they begin their work when they are hired.

The same logic and reasoning should be applied to school, and anywhere else that enforces a dress code.

Even when a uniform is not handed out, if you need to make a diagram/picture of what is acceptable versus not acceptable then make it.

Decency is a thing. But do not demean a girl and her self-esteem for wearing shorts!

To end this Art Tuesday post, I say:

Respect girls and women for their choice of apparel to keep themselves cool in the spring and summer months, as long as it is suited for the environment that they are staying. While I understand that there are guidelines for certain workplaces, these rules should be stated outright to everyone including men and women.

I’ll let a post from Tumblr officially end this one 😛

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When a girl walks in… RESPECT HER #respectgirls #respectwomen #respecteveryone #respecteverybody Found image via my facebook feed, post made through Tumblr **The Gaff Blog does not own this image**

***Update*** Found this picture on my instagram feed from a page called freethep (a group in the UK that supports making women’s sanitary napkins/pads/tampons free to all women). I thought it could not be more related to this post and the point I was asserting.

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**Image taken from instagram. The Gaff Blog does not own this image**

**The Gaff Blog Does Not Own Any Images Shared in This Post ** 

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